Yes you can talk about sex*!

*and anything else you’re worried about talking about

More times than I can count, I’ve been working with a client for some time, only to have them start a session with, “So I’m not sure if this is okay to talk about in here…” Nine times out of ten, it’s about sex, but it could just as easily be about some other “taboo” subject. It’s happened so many times (and still will happen, even with this disclaimer) that I decided to plunk it right down on my site as a special header.

The short answer is, “We can talk about anything, and I mean anything.” I appreciate that this is easier said than done for many of us, especially in the lopsided social dynamic of a therapist’s office where there isn’t an equal exchange of vulnerability (i.e. we can talk about your sex life or your other taboo topics, but probably not mine), but let me promise you that I am on the far outskirts of sex positivity and just about any other positivity you can think of where everyone involved is acting with full consent and disclosure.

So, I will understand if you need to warm up a bit and get comfortable with me before you delve into all the most vulnerable details of your life, but I am also a fan of efficiency, so please consider saving yourself some time, taking a deep breath and sharing That Thing That Feels Uncomfortable To Talk About sooner rather than later. Even if you came in to talk about grief, or trauma, or self esteem, or anxiety, we can still talk about sex. Or whatever. Like my mother used to tell me about my pediatrician when I’d get nervous before my yearly physical, “Don’t worry honey, he’s seen a million of them.”

I’ve heard it all! And if I haven’t, I’ll be happy to add something new to the list!